Husband potentially has cancer

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through, especially during this time with Covid, which only compounds the stress you are currently experiencing.

At the moment you still have every chance that your husband is cancer free. The most obvious conclusion when you find a lump of any kind in the body is, that it must be cancer. As hard as it may seem to do right now, please keep telling yourself that there is every chance that it’s not.

It’s good that he is having further tests this weekend and it would seem as if things are moving in the right direction quickly. You need to know one way or another, whatever the outcome. It is something you will both deal with together, if you need to. At the moment there is no need to include the children, as you do not know yet, what you’re dealing with.

I only have the one child who is 10, and although we took the view of sharing everything with him once I was diagnosed, I cannot say how I would have dealt with matters had I had more children. You are not being a terrible mother, you’re frightened of the unknown. What parent doesn’t get a little snappy at the best of times, let alone with what’s going through your mind now. What I do know is that is that when people are tested to their limits, it’s amazing how strong they become.

Hopefully, others on this forum will reach out to you very quickly to offer you the comfort and support you clearly need right now. I was diagnosed at the beginning of lockdown and I can say that Covid did not delay the process too much. I hope you get positive news, once all tests are completed. Just take care of yourself and your children.

Good luck to you all just try be posetive Survival is more often the result I have had most my family have some kind of cancer Ofer my 63 , years Wishing you the best carfull how you telchildren they think it’s only bad that’s not true , life after Cancer is a reality best wishes

Thank you for your kind words. We have everything crossed that it isn't cancer. 

I'm sorry you've had a diagnosis. I hope you and your family, particularly your child are as ok as is possible at what must be such a difficult time  

I have NHL follicular B my Aeorta my daughter does not talk see me I left home 3 years ago after 40 years marriage was over my life was just screaming Daughter 36 then screaming husband 3 barking dos that never stopped I left I try to live very very quiet I’m ️& times are truly hard just got my 2 Letter of no socialising I’m shielded now till end of August it’s life trying to get on with it but I have good bad days I get so tiered but no poinfeeling sorry for me , Many here much worst but please love take 1 day at a time I try not to look ahead as I was told nobody is promised tomorrow pandemic makes us lucky we’re shielded best wishes keep safe , I am alone for rest of my life my other daughter would have me live with her but I do not like anybody around me it’s really hard she deserves a better mum

My wife and I are very lucky having a son who is very grown up for his 10 years, kind and affectionate. He just wants to help. The worst part of my process during lockdown, was being diagnosed and then re-diagnosed 8 weeks later with a different cancer. Looking on the upside, the prognosis is better.

I noticed your post because I’d seen you mention lymph node. I have Lymphoma (DLBCL, which you don’t need to think about) and was curious to see what else you’d said. 

I had my first round of chemo last Thursday, so early days for me. Can be a bit on the grumpy side, but my wife and son can’t tell the difference

You'll be ok. 

Hi Nic

Waiting for a diagnosis is the absolute worst.  

I have lymphoma, which is one of the things they will be looking to exclude.  It's likely that a biopsy will need to be done to get a definite answer, but you should know that many types of cancer are treatable and even curable these days.

Keep us up to date as you get more information so people from the relevant groups can reach out to you.  Hopefully it's not cancer but there are plenty of people to support you through it if it is.

Hi and another welcome from me.

I see you have received some great support and I do hope that you feel encouraged. I also had Lymphoma, diagnosed in 1999 and still around doing great so some more encouraging news.

These investigations are very stressful but just needs to be done to find what is going on. He is rather fortunate in that things are moving quickly as at times this can drag on and just makes the “what if’s” become even louder in your head. 

You may just want to talk with our Macmillan Support Team and you can do this using the Macmillan Support Line Services on 0808 808 00 00 covering Emotional Support, Practical Information and Clinical Information mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link but you may find the service very busy at the moment.

Until you know what is going on we are always around on this thread so come back at any time ((hugs))