Daughter has been diagnosed

Morning 

So sorry to see you joining us here and reading about your daughter - At such a terribly young age and so soon after her baby's birth, this couldn't have been found at a worse time for you all :-/

The waiting full results period is an agonizing wait, emotionally you will feel all over the place. Everyone here found it the worst part to cope with. Once a treatment plan has been put into place it gives everyone something else to focus on.

Which area are the affected nodes in, as this may determine where this could be heading ?  Bear in mind the lymph nodes job is to filter and 'hold' onto any infectious cells, so in this respect they have been stopped from going further - the big question is where have they come from.

There are many groups here one of which is the Family and Friends Group but I will keep a lookout for a reply and get back to you with further information and support.

Sorry this is brief but I wanted to get the reply to you while you are still around.

Hugs, G n' J

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply so quickly. I think it suddenly hit me this morning and the tears just wont stop. The trouble is I have her the 2 younger siblings here at home with me and they are just puzzled as to what is going on, dont really want to tell them until we have had full diagnosis etc and we know how we are going forward.

Her glands are up in her neck and have been for several months but she has now had a lump appear on her breast that looks infected, she has has a cough which has shown up something on her lung but this we are hoping is infection. So far she has only spoken to the dr which has said that if is within the lymph nodes.  She has had night sweats, tiredness and weight loss but in herself she says she feels ok.

Just feel so useless and scared of the journey we are about to begin, to know I have to watch my little girl going through this whilst she should be enjoying her time with her 7 month old baby. 

Thanks again you have put your hand out and its very much appreciated I dont know your story but I really am thankful there are people out there that are willing to be there xx

Hi

Overwhelming is an understatement at these times, the way you are feeling is totally normal. They lob the cancer rock into your lake which cause so many ripples you have to ride out before it all starts to sink in. I think you are right about waiting for more information before telling the siblings is the right way to go but you may have to say she is having tests of some sort carried out as they will soon figure out something is up and may feel put out if you keep them totally in the dark; a lot depends on their ages as to what info they can handle. Problem is this could lead to questions you cannot yet answer and can cause them to fret as well.

Your daughter seems to have a lot of symptoms which may or may not be related - Has any scan or breast clinic appointments been given yet, or is this all still very early days ?

If this does stem from a breast issue having recently given birth may have hidden any normal clues especially if she has been breast feeding.

As for us if you click on our name there is some background info on our profile page - 8 years post breast cancer for my wife.

Hope this is of some help, do keep in touch as the only silly question is the one that isn't asked.

Hugs, G n' J

All still very early days, basically just had a phone call from her doctor and now awaiting to hear off whoever they have referred it too so we are still quite in the dark.  She is bearing up quite well, obviously very scared of what they are going to tell her but is at the moment dealing with if. Like I said if just hit me like a bombshell this morning. 

Her two younger siblings are 14 and 9 and she has another brother of 22, they will all be told once we get some definite answers.

Thank you once again, it is a comfort to talk to someone who is not directly involved I appreciate you getting back to me. 

Rachel x

Hi

14 and 9 are a bit young for all this aren't they :-/

You are more than welcome to join the Family & Friends Group linked in the previous reply and start a discussion there, but if you feel you would rather wait until you know a little more from any scan results etc I will send you a 'Friend Request'  so you can have contact through private messages with us until that time.

You will get an email notification of a friend request; if you feel this would help for now just click/tap accept and any time you wish to send a message (for any reason) just click our username and you will see a 'Send Private Message' button.

It's going to be a tough couple of weeks ahead for you all, take care, G n' J

Thank you for you kindness and words.

I have accepted the friend request thank you and that would be fabulous to be able to speak to you. 

I suppose we are lucky that we are a very close family and together we will be able to support each other, it's the shock of it all when it's the one thing you never even expected.

Hope you are all well and enjoy the rest of your day.

Xx

hi Rachel

at this moment in time your head is full of questions which you need answers too. Waiting is the worst time too. But the breast clinic are doing marvellous things now .they will deal with you quickly and send you appointments for scans/x-rays anything you are not to sure of ask the clinic they can help you with anything .

you need to stay positive and your daughter is in my prayers

Hi

Just wondering how are you all feeling today - and have you been given any further details or appointment info from anyone ?

Hugs, G n' J