I need to taik

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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I need to talk
Over the past two years I have lost both my dad and my nan (not to cancer) and I've not dealt with the loss very well. Now my uncle has been diagnosed with cancer of the esophagus and it's gone to far for any operation to remove the tumour and he has been given 7 months to live, with everything else that's gone on I am finding it very hard to come to terms with the situation.

FormerMember over 5 years ago

Hi , I’m sorry to hear about your Uncle, Dad and Nan, I can imagine that this new diagnosis is throwing up some old feelings as well as coping with coming to terms with your uncles diagnosis. I’d like to welcome you to the community and see if I can help you connect to others who have experience in what your going through. I’m going to recommend a few groups you might want to join and either read and reply to a recent post that strikes a cord with you or to put your own post in, I always find putting things down in writing clears my head and helps me become more focused.

I am a cancer patient myself and when my cousin was diagnosed and subsequently passed away, I know it stirred a bit of survivor guilt in myself but not what you must be going through.

I hope you find the groups below helpful and supportive, I’m suggesting the family and friends group to discuss how your feeling about your uncles diagnosis, and perhaps the emotional issues group.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/being_a_relative_/discussions

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/emotional_issues/discussions

Have a little click and read and see what you think.

There is also a bereaved family and friends group for you to consider

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/bereaved_friends/discussions,

Things often seem worse at night but between 8am and 8pm there is a Macmillan support line that you can chat to on 0808 808 0000

Best wishes