My mum’s 2nd battle

Hi and welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to read that your mum has recently been diagnosed with bowel cancer. I'm not sure from your post whether this has spread to her liver or whether the liver cancer is separate. 

The community is divided up into cancer specific groups so could I recommend that you join the bowel cancer group as you can then ask questions, share experiences and get support from others who will understand what your mum is going through. 

Depending on whether the cancer in her liver is a primary or secondary you could also join either the liver cancer or the secondary liver cancer group to again talk with people who have this type of cancer.

Another group which you might want to join is the family and friends group as it's a safe and supportive place to share your worries and concerns with others who have a loved one living with cancer.

To join any of these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the pages that open. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

You say that you're not sure if your mum is correct when she says that her treatment is on hold because of Covid19. It is true that some cancer treatments have been delayed but it's unlikely that her doctors will have a treatment plan set up for her yet as you've said she's having a biopsy on Thursday.

Once all the tests and scan results are in there will be a MDT (multidisciplinary team) meeting when all the specialists will get together to decide what is the best course of treatment for your mum.

When you have a minute it would be useful if could pop something about your mum's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

Sending a supportive ((hug))

Hello

welcome to the online community, i must admit I pondered on your post and struggled to find the best words of comfort, parents naturally try to protect us from harm. It sounds like that your Mum is doing just that and it’s difficult when you don’t know exactly how bad her cancer is and of course the very fact she maybe intentionally hiding it from you. I am not at all surprised that your very scared and confused. It may help for you yourself to get so,e support too here on the online community we have various groups for cancer type etc and groups for carers, friends and family. Here’s the link for friends and family https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/being_a_relative_/ i think it helps to talk with people going though smiler situations. I also feel you may find chatting to one of our friendly support line colleagues the number is below. You want to know more about bowel cancer  https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/bowel-colon-rectum-cancer/ Or even secondary liver cancer https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/liver-secondary-cancer/ in these groups will be people who will understand what your mum is going though and may help offer insight and i hope that these are some help to you. The one thing to understand is here people totally understand what your going though and willingness to help. 

You may find filling in your profile information helpful to others answering you and will help for not having to repeat yourself, you can do this by clicking on your username and pressing edit. 

Sending love and best wishes

Thank you for your kind reply . You’ve given me clear guidelines of how to move forward & make more sense of what sometimes feels like a minefield. ️

Thank you so much for responding. I need to take stock and follow the links your provided. Makes all the difference doing something rather than nothing! Thank you ️