My dad recently found out his lung cancer was terminal ( big shock as weeks before we were told his cancer was best case scenario and was clearing up after radiotherapy)
my question is how do people cope with feeling like every day is a count down? Every day I wake I feel like I’m a day closer to losing my father after his 6 months diagnosis.
while this did come as a shock to everyone especially him, I can only praise him on how amazing he has been for everyone through his most difficult time, however he was always the man that helped anyone he could.
hes now on oxygen full time and with everything going on he’s been advised to be in his house on his own however I do his cleaning. Washing, meals etc so he has minimal company.
He misses his grandchildren who he was more life a dad to than a grandad, he misses his independence and his friends now that he can barely move and relies on being cared for, in the space of a few months this independent fearless man has become stuck and independent on a chair and people looking after him and sometimes I can’t come to terms with it, day’s are harder than others and I already feel like I’ve lost my daddy, the man who held everything together.
he knows he’s leaving us and is trying his hardest to put on a brave face but I can’t be as brave as him and I which I could because every time I get upset I feel selfish because his world must be collapsing and he’s being so strong for everyone.
my question is how to cope with the sudden change and accept what is going to happen and how to make life any easier for him.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis.
A terminal cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of confusion, stress and many many questions but talking with people who are on the same type of journey can help a lot.
I don't have any first hand experience but I see you have posted in our Family and friends group. You may also think about posting in our Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey. can I direct you to our very supportive
Posting in these groups will open up your concerns to a wider group of people who know exactly what you are all going through at the moment.
Can I also highly recommend our various Macmillan Support Line Services - you can call them free on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 9.00 to 5.00 but check the link but you may find the service very busy at the moment.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering cancer diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.
Click here to see how to add details to your profile. It helps everyone to see a little about you and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username but my journey was rather complicated.
All the very best.
