I used to be sociable, positive and proactive but now seem to be co.pletely the opposite. I have lost all motivation and have not felt so down for such a long period of time. I know the reason for feeling this way but it doesn't make it any easier.
My sister passed away last September from cancer. This was sooner than expected as she witheld information about how serious her condition was. Some people may say how could we have been so stupid not to have known but even with a thought process in the back of our minds we listened to her and the doctors who gave us hope. My sister would not allow the doctors to talk to her if she did not want to listen to what they had to say and did not share all of the information with family.
Again in hindsight all of the flags were there And although those flags had been discussed on numerous occasions between family it still does not prepare you for the actual event of her passing.
My younger sister suffers from mental health issues and has done for the last 20 years so is not coping well with the loss. My parents are also struggling.
I took on my nephew to make sure he was looked after and still live in the area so his life remains as routine as posible.
So I guess what I am saying is I am finding it hard to deal with everyone's emotions as well as my own. I have looked into support locally but as we are both considered functioning and not in crisis there is no help for us at this point in time.
I would be grateful for recommendations of how to help myself, my nephew and the rest of my family. I know there are support groups but have not found one that fits in with our routine. It would also be good to hear from people who truly understand as friends and work colleagues don't. They offer sympathy and to listen but I don't like being constantly asked how I am or did I have a good weekend.
Thank you if you take the time to read this. I have not written everything I could have in fear of running out of characters!! Plus I am not writing a novel!
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see folks finding us and so sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing. There are many levels of emotion to deal with having lost someone to cancer and the family will all deal with this in some many different ways.
Talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot so can I highlight our very supportive Bereaved family and friends Group.
Posting in this group will open up your concerns to a wider group of people who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.
Follow the link I've created, join the group, then hit ‘start a discussion’ and you are ready to go.
You could then copy and paste the information from this first post into your new discussion or you can also join in with existing ‘discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
Can I also highly recommend our various Macmillan Support Line Services - you can call them free on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support and Practical Information mostly open 9.00 to 5.00 but check the link but you may find the service very busy at the moment.
((hugs)) from a distance.
Hi and welcome to the online community
Can I start by offering my condolences on the death of your mum. This must have been very hard for you.
I can see that you've joined the bereaved family and friends group where I'm sure you'll find lots of support from other members of the community who have lost a loved one to cancer.
Having joined the group you can introduce yourself and start a conversation by selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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