New to the Group, I’m losing my mum

Hi  and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis - this must have been a big shock to you.

A terminal cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress, confusion and many questions but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot so can I highlight our very supportive Supporting someone with incurable cancergroups a benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.

You may also find our Carers only a goid place to join.

Posting in these groups will open up your concerns to a wider group of people who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.

Follow the links I've created, join the groups then introduce yourself to the groups and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and you can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

((hugs))

Hi

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. News like this is devastating at any time but all the harder with the current restrictions. I see that Mike Thehighlander has already given you links to the people most likely to be able to help. If I was you, my first port of call would be to the ward sister and to my mum's GP.

The ward sister should be able to give you an assessment of your mum's likely needs once she is home as well as details of when she will be transferred. This might include pain relief, help with toiling and feeding etc. She (or he) should know what services are available in the community, including hospices, end of life nursing care teams, district nursing and so on. 

The GP will hear from the hospital in due course about your mum but it might take at least a few days. So I would get in touch with her practice, explain what's been going on, what the ward sister has said and ask about what end of life services they might put in place. It should, in theory, be possible for her to have a hospital bed at home, for example, and to set up home nursing visits. 

I hope you can get something in place. Are you in a position to move in with her for these last weeks? It may well be that someone needs to be with her full time. 

I hope this is helpful.