Hi
wondering anyone has any suggestions.
my husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2016 aged 36.
After surgery, chemo and radiotherapy we Had about 2 yrs where he was well which was great.
We decided to have a baby and I am due next week.
unfortunately about 8 weeks ago we found out the cancer has returned and he had to start palliative chemo about 2 weeks ago.
when he had chemo last time and this time his mum came to live with us to help with cooking and housework. She is incredibly helpful. Sometimes it can be a little difficult living with your mother in law but overall we get on well.
She is very stressed at the moment as his older sister who lives abroad is having marital issues. She is constantly worried about her 2 children and although trying to help she is also waking at 230 am every morning. She is exhausted.
she is Tamil from Sri Lanka originally and I feel additionally she is v lonely and doesn’t have people to speak to in her position as a mother of an adult child with cancer.
does anyone know of support groups for parents of adult children with cancer? More specifically of groups for Tamil parents in the uk? I realise this is unlikely as I haven’t been able to find one so far. I worry even more how she would cope with the grieving process in the future even though I don’t want to think about this.
appreciate anyone’s thoughts.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis and the challenges at home.
We actually have a dear friend in her 80s who is Tamil from Sri Lanka part of our Church, now widowed. She has a good network of friends but at the same time she is very private, deals with her emotions in a very guarded way so I can see your challenges. I have no knowledge of any specific support group but let’s see if some others on the Community can help.
I see that you have joined our very supportive Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups.
These groups will be a benefit to you as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey and as the group members are spread across the UK posting in these groups will open up your concerns to a wider group of people who know exactly what you are going through at the moment and you may find what you are looking for.
Follow the links I've created then introduce yourself to the groups and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and you can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Can I also highly recommend our various Macmillan Support Line Services - you can call them free on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link and you may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful.
Also check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing and do run groups fir EVERYONE effected by cancer.
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All the very best.
