Up until 4 weeks ago my mum was totally independent and had no cognitive impairments. 4 weeks ago she was admitted to hospital and cutting a long story short is now totally confused and agitated and immobile. The doctors diagnosed a brain lesion. They tried high dose steroids but she has got worse and is now on end of life care. Everything is happening so fast. I have my own issues with depression and anxiety which have been stable but i can feel them going out of control. I am dealing with the emotions of coming to terms with mums diagnosis and dealing with all the practical things on my own and it has affected me more than i thought it was. I have so many questions and just don't know where to turn. Lots of my friends are offering to help but not in the way i need and i'm too polite to explain that so am backing away which is what i do when my depression hits. I feel lost.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis - this must have been a big shock to all the family.
A terminal cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress, confusion and many questions on all the family but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot.
Can I first highlight our very supportive Supporting someone with incurable cancer group.
Posting in this group will open up your concerns to a wider group of people who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.
Follow the link I've created, join the group then introduce yourself to the group and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and you can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
You may also find our Carers only group a good place to connect in with people who understand.
Can I also highly recommend our various Macmillan Support Line Services - you can call them free on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link and you may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
You may want to put some information in your profile as this can help a lot. Click here to see how to add details as this helps everyone to see a little about you and how best to reply to you.
All the very best ((hugs))
