My Father

Hi  and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your fathers diagnosis - this must have been a big shock to you……..

A terminal cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress, confusion and many questions on all the family but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot.

Can I first highlight our very supportive Supporting someone with incurable cancer group.

Posting in this group will open up your concerns to a wider group of people who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.

Follow the link I've created, join the group then introduce yourself to the group and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and you can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

Can I also highly recommend our various Macmillan Support Line Services - you can call them free on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link and you may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful.

Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.

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All the very best.

My father has also been diagnosed with a brain tumour and he was told the same diagnosis last month, reading your words is like reading my own feeling at the moment.

And now with the Corona virus we are all isolated from each other, my sister and I have our own familys and we are the oldest of 5 children, I feel so afraid that the little time we have left is going by so fast and I cant even see my beautiful dad, wasting time we could use to make amazing memories, sorry for going on but your message just hit home, 

I am so sorry to hear about your Father.  My dad was also diagnosed with an aggressive brain tumour last week he was fine in terms of we had discussed a treatment plan and this week he is receiving end of life care.  I feel so numb.  My dad was my mums carer so I am now helping her but it’s difficult with the current situation.  We are hoping he will be transferred to a hospice today.

Stay positive the sun will soon be out and will see this big off.

all you can do is keep in touch.

im sure you will see him again I’m sure having so many children will give him something to fight for. 

just wake up and be grateful for each day, That’s what I have learnt. 

You still have time and you will get through it. 

I feel more positive then I have the entire time we have known about this even though some days I am so angry and sad. This shitty thing doesn’t come with a handbook of how you should be feeling. 

Take the Opportunity of being at home to be kind to yourself and Before you know it you will be visiting people again. 

My Dad has to wake up each day knowing what he will have to leave behind someday and that feeling has to be far worse then me knowing I have to live on without him.