Mum has had cancer for 11 years and 3 weeks ago was told they couldn’t offer any further medical treatment.She has chosen to opt for comfort care going forward and it’s all left me in complete turmoil. So many questions, so many feelings. I can think of nothing else except what will happen, when and how and my imagination is running wild. I sometimes can’t breathe, I’ve had tummy pains on and off, muscle aches, fatigue and I’ve cried tears that come when I least expect it. I’ve found myself wandering in the fields with my dog with tears streaming, I’ve been shopping with the hope it will distract me and make the pain go away. It doesn’t. Will I ever feel in control of this?! I’m so so sad but trying to be ‘normal’ for the sake of my parents and family. It hurts, it’s really tough. Thanks for listening x
Hi and welcome to the online community at what sounds like an incredibly tough time for you.
Could I suggest that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe place to discuss your worries with others who will understand what you're going through.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It's natural to feel as you do and to have lots of questions especially as you might be finding it hard to come to terms with the fact that your mum has opted for palliative care.
Most areas of the UK have cancer support groups for carers, partners, family members and friends. These are usually led by people who may be in a similar position to you and you could click here to see if there is something like that near where you live.
Sending a supportive (((hug)))
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