Hi everyone.
Im not 100% sure that this is the best place to post this or to ask for advice, but I’m hoping people who have experienced something similar can help me out.
My father in law has just been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. He won’t see our wedding which is booked for 2022 and we’re unable to move the wedding forward.
Instead, we’re thinking of having some sort of symbolic ceremony/commitment ceremony at our venue with just our closest family which would allow my fiancé to be walked in and given away by her father.
Im just wondering if anyone has done this type of thing. Because it’s not actually going to be our wedding, we’re not sure on what we should have our “celebrant” say in regards to vows etc, our celebrant might actually just be a close family member.
If anyone has any advice or would be so kind to share their experiences, I would really appreciate it.
thanks, A x
Hello , I’m sorry to hear about your future FIL’s diagnosis, it sounds like a lovely thing to plan if you can’t change your date. You mentioned you weren’t sure where the best place to post was, I was thinking the friends and family group might be a idea, I will put a link below.
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/being_a_relative_/discussions
I have worked at a wedding venue where in a quiet corner they set a side table with a large picture and an album of pictures of the brides Mum for the wedding party, the bride wanted a corner to feel that her mum was there at the wedding.
I hope you find the experience or ideas from others that you are looking for.
best wishes
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