Supporting my mum & dad

FormerMember
FormerMember
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Hi, I’m new to this online community so just wanted to share my situation, although I’m not sure where to start...

To cut a long story short, my Dad has been suffering with Cancer for 3 years. He’s had 2 different types, been through chemo and radiotherapy. In September we were told his cancer is incurable and until recently he has been having palliative chemo. Then, 2 months after the devestating news about my Dad, my mum was diagnosed with breast Caner and is due to start chemo. Since my mums diagnosis, we’ve found out that my Dads chemo isn’t working, his tumor has got bigger and they’ve found another one.We are now waiting to hear what happens next.

To be honest I don’t really know what to think at the moment, I feel useless, confused, angry and also lonely. I live 2hrs away from them with my amazingly supportive husband & my 2 young daughters. I feel like I am in an unusual position but I’m pretty certain I’m not alone.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi , I’m sorry to hear about parents but wanted to welcome you to the community. I had a peek to see that you have joined the friends and family and the supporting someone with incurable cancer groups, so your on the way to some support from the Macmillan community as well as your amazing husband. 

    I have one of those families where we all live a distance apart, and the 2 hour journey to my parents wasn’t easy to do on a regular basis, but very much appreciated along with the phone calls. I’m also thinking that your circumstance will be similar to others, and I think you’ve joined the right groups to find them. It will also help to complete your profile - press on your user name and find the edit button say a little about what bring you here and press save. It’s useful to read the profile of others when they reply to you to get a perspective I’ve found, and it saves some repeating for yourself.

    The period waiting for what comes next seems to be longer than other weeks, especially at Christmas so I hope you take care of yourself. I’m wondering if you want to join any of the cancer type groups as well if you have any specific questions to others about the cancer types.

    Best wishes

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello i feel your pain as my dad passed away yesterday due to cancer ! And i am now my mums fulltime carer it isnt easy as mum has vascular Dementia.  And she is unaware of my dads passing. Love her. I hope you see there are other ppl with the same situation you are in. I hope your mum treatment is successful. 

    All the best.