My Dad

Dear Taranis, I am so sorry to hear your dad has come to the end of his treatment options, however that doesn’t mean that he can not be supported in a different way. Has he been referred to palliative care services or the local hospice. I am a terminal patient and receive tremendous support from my local hospice, they offer help with pain relief, emotional support and are also there to help the whole family. your dad can be referred by his gp. It’s not at all like you would imagine it to be, I find it a life enhancing experience to attend.

Hi  and a second welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your dad.

This is a hard time to navigate but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot so can I direct you to this link to our very supportive Supporting Someone with Incurable Cancer groups to be good places where you can connect with others support family through their cancer journey but more importantly the carers care for each other.

Thus group as this will open up your concerns to a wider audience who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.

Just follow the link I have created then hit the ‘Join This Group’ tab just under the main group name, then go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab and set up your very own Discussion and introduce yourself to the group and ask your questions.

You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.

We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’. section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.

Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.

When you feel up to it try putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. Just click on YOUR username, select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.

All the very best.

Hi

Many thanks for your message and the time you have taken to reply.

He has had the hospice services available since his diagnosis but chooses not to use them.  My mum is the same.  I guess he is very old school when it comes to things like this.

Don't really know if I would be able to change his mind about it.

I hope you continue to enjoy the benefit they give you.

Thanks

Hi 

Thank you for your message and the time you have taken to reply.

He has had these services available to him since his diagnosis but chooses not to use them even now.  My mum is also the same.

Not sure I am going to change his mind about it.  He is very old school about these things.

I hope you continue to get the benefit these services give you

Speak soon

Kind regards

Dear Taranis, I totally understand and respect your mum and dads point of view. The good thing is that they know the services are there if they change their minds in the future. I wish you the very best and hope you can get some support for yourself in the supporting someone with incurable cancer part of the forum.

Thank you