My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer in June with secondary bone cancer in his hip , rib and shoulder. He started chemotherapy and has just had his 4th session. Afterwards it seems to take longer to recover from the side affects and I've noticed he's mentally lower each time too. His eating and drinking is on the decline too and he does day and night. I've tried all the usual encouragement s and even badgering on occasion but nothing seems to work but he won't go for help. How do I handle this as I'm at a loss how to help him
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about the issues you are dealing with around your husbands cancer.
A cancer diagnosis can indeed bring a lot of stress, confusion and questions but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot.
Can I direct you to this links to our very supportive Prostate cancer and Bone, secondary cancer groups as this will open up your concerns to a wider audience who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.
Just follow the links I have created then hit the ‘Join This Group’ tab just under the main group name, then go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab and set up your very own Discussion and introduce yourself to the group and ask your questions.
As I was the person with the cancer my experience of supporting someone is very limited, although my wife has been amazing over my 20 years. You may also find our Carers Only and Friends and Family groups to be good places where you can connect with others support family through their cancer journey but more importantly the carers care for each other.
You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’. section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
When you feel up to it try putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. Just click on YOUR username, select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.
All the very best.
