My mum has been battling cancer for 10 years now - in the last 3 years it has got progressively worse with it now having spread to her bones aside from other multiple sites. She is now in hospital for the 2nd time in weeks after first her arm breaking and then 3 weeks later her femur breaking as she walked. We now face the possibility her other leg is in trouble.
I am finding it all so utterly heartbreaking and upsetting for her - to watch her independence disappear and the pain and fear she is experiencing about the future - and in turn am finding everything so overwhelming (work, family, supporting my dad and sibling) to have to deal with on a day basis. I am generally a strong person - I do try to keep perspective, but it is very hard.
I would welcome anyone's advice on how to cope and any useful information/ sites I can use.
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to hear that after battling with cancer for a long time your mum's cancer has now spread to her bones and other places.It's natural to feel like you do and to want to do all you can to help her.
This community is divided into groups where you can ask questions and get support. You haven't said where her primary cancer is but I'd recommend that you join the secondary bone cancer group where you can benefit from the experiences of others.
Another group that you might find helpful to join is the family and friends group where you can share your emotions and get support. If you feel able to tell me about her primary cancer then I could link you to that group. Alternatively clicking here will take you to a list of all the cancer specific groups and you could take a look through it and join whichever one you feel is appropriate.
To join either or both of these groups just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the pages that open. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it, it would be really useful if could pop something about your mum's journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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Hi and welcome to the online community although I'm sorry that you've had to find us.
I'm very sorry to hear what you and your mum are going through right now. It must be very hard for you both. I can see from your activity that you've found and posted in the family and friends group. Could I suggest a couple of other groups for you to join. The first is the secondary breast cancer group where you can talk to others with this diagnosis about their treatment, etc and the second is the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss your emotions.
Clicking on the links I've created will take you directly to those groups. Once you have joined you can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it, it would be really useful if could pop something about your mum's journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
