Mum care

Hello Worrybunny. I truly hope u will find some support on this forum.

I suggest u join either the Family and friends group or Carers only group for yourself and the Breast cancer and Lung, secondary cancer to find others in your mum's  situation.

 Try ringing the helpline on 0808 808 0000 8am to 8pm 7 days a week to talk to someone re your stress n also to find out if there's somewhere local, eg a Macmillan or Maggie's centre, u can go to talk things through.

You may find u need to get some meds from your GP to help short term?

In the meantime keep talking to us on here n let us know how you're getting on. 

Btw, do put a bit in your profile so you don't have to keep repeating yourself 

Welcome to the online community and to the place you never thought you would come to.

My friend buttercup01 has mentioned to you 

Maggies Centre and hopefully you will find that you have one of their excellent centres close to you, they run a 6 week course Maggie's - Managing Stress which maybe of interest to you. One of my fellow champions src60 has been on the course and found it most useful and hopefully he will pop himself into the conversation and tell you more about it and what you can expect to receive from it.

I would like to suggest to you that you make contact with your local County council and speak to a member of the adult social care team and ask for

A needs assessment for your mum

A needs assessment for yourself 

The object of the assessment is to identify what help and support you and your mum needs and make recommendations and covers all aspects of making life easier for the both of you.

You may also want to think about applying for an attendance allowance for your mum, it's not charity, it's not means tested it's an allowance that your mum is entitled to.

Did you know that the majority of people in this country who look after a relative do not class themselves as being a carer but care is what you have become and with the role comes stress, exhaustion, tiredness as no doubt whilst looking after your mum you have a home to run, a family to look after and possibly hold down a job and it is important that you take time to look after yourself, plan to each day make time for YOU  or as I like to call it ME TIME where you can take a step back to go out for a coffee or a glass of wine with the girls, do a bit of retail therapy or just go into another room with a magazine and coffee and chill out you will come back feeling refreshed and stronger and ready to face the new challenges life has in store for you.

Remember stress is a two way thing and you mum will be facing it also so allowances will need to made for each others emotions and give each other space.

I hope you will join our Carers only forum group as the name implies it is only for carers, like you, to come together to share experiences and ask questions, it's also a place you can come to chat, rant and rave or just let off steam knowing that, as everyone is in the same position as you, you will not judged you in anyway.

Our Family and friends forum group is another good place to meet similar minded people as yourself.

No matter which group you join you be amongst a group of very friendly people who are extremely supportive towards each other.

I hope The BODACH has been of some help to you this morning if you need anymore help or information please give me a shout out at anytime.

Ian

Notes 

Macmillans Support down your way

Needs assessment 

Carers needs assessment

Social care and support guide

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