Hi all, about 2 months ago my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. The prognosis was good and surgery arranged. She had her pre op assessment and following her chest xray they found a shadow on a lung. Last week she had a CT scan that confirmed a lesion on her right lung and has now been sent for a PET scan. I’m devastated! I want to stay strong for her but I’m struggling. What can i do please?
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your wife.
Any cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress, confusion and questions on all the family but from my long experience talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot.
Can I first direct you to these links to our Breast cancerand Lung, secondary cancer groups as this will open up your concerns to a wider audience who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.
Just follow the links above, hitting ‘Join the Group’ tab just under the main group name, then go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab and set up your own Discussion and introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you have in this first post.
As I was the person with the cancer my experience of supporting someone is very limited, although my wife has been amazing over my 20 years. You may also find our Careers Only and Friends and Familygroup a good place where you can connect with others support family through their cancer journey but more importantly the carers care for each other.
You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering cancer diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
When you feel up to it try putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. Just click on YOUR username, select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.
All the very best.
Thanks for the contact and help
much appreciated
