Hi
Looking for advice, my wife had a small lump which has been removed about a month ago, she then found out she was HER2 positive, previous to having the cancer we were not in a good place relationship wise & because my Mum died just a couple days after surgery I didn’t put enough focus on her so her recovery has been through a rollercoaster of events, her wounds from the surgery now have developed a redness around them, she has contacted her nurse from the hospital and she advised to go and see the surgeon on Monday, this has really stressed her out, we’ve done nothing but argued since then, I’ve made suggestions like calling 111 or going to A & E but because I said I didn’t think it looked too bad I’m wrong we’re now in an impasse just shouting at each other. Now just stuck & can’t move passed this to so the best for her
thanks
Hi and welcome to the online community
Can I start by offering my sincere condolences on your recent bereavement.
It sounds like this has been a very difficult time for both you and your wife, having both a bereavement and a HER2 positive breast cancer diagnosis to deal with at the same time.
I'm sure you were trying to reassure her when you said that the redness that has developed around her wound "didn't look too bad" but she possibly felt that you didn't understand how scared she feels at the moment. You may find this information from Macmillan helpful in understanding the emotions your wife is going through at the moment.
Joining the family and friends group so that you can talk to others who have a loved one dealing with cancer may also help.
To join this group click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself or post a question after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
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