My sister living on her own with bone mets and primary breast cancer

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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My sister is 55 and lives on her own having never been married or any children. She has me and another sister for support and a good group of social friends.

She was given 3 years left to live in January 2017 and refuses to give up work as it is her reason to get out of bed. Her health is deteriorating with her being very tired loss of appetite and in bad pain. She is an oncology nurse so knows exactly what is coming . I feel so sad and worried for her but she will not burden anybody with her thoughts and worries.

I want to be able to offer some comforting words but get emotional

latchbrook over 5 years ago

Hi and welcome to the online community

I'm sorry to hear that your sister's health is deteriorating and it must be a very worrying time for you. It's natural that you want to help her but equally normal that you become emotional when you talk to her.

Could I suggest that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you can share your worries and get support from others who will understand exactly what you're going through.

To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself after selecting 'start a discussion' or join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

When you have a minute it would be really useful if could pop something about your sister's journey so far into your profile as it helps others when replying to you. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to latchbrook

Thank you for your time, I will take your advice.

papermoon over 5 years ago

Hi Maddimoo what a wonderful courageous woman your sister is especially as she knows firsthand the fate that awaits her. It's so difficuit when you see a family member suffering and you feel powerless to help. This happened with my brother. Presumably there will come a time fairly soon when she wont be able to carry on working. My brother was very stubborn and refused help living on his own until 3 days before he died. Difficuit though it is all you can do is to let them know you are there for them whenever you're needed and I sure there will come a time when she wont refuse. In the end I had to come to terms with the fact he lived his life the way he wanted to hard though it was for us all.