Coping with so much sadness

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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I lost my husband to liver cancer in January, during his illness my mum was also diagnosed with lung cancer, I managed to support them both as best I could, lam continuing to support mum who is about to start a new chemotherapy in August but I feel a little overwhelmed by it all just now, I hide it well but when I am awake at night I feel a deep sadness that my future is going to be very lonely without my loved ones..

FormerMember over 5 years ago

I am so very sorry to read about your husband and mother. You are going through a very difficult time and I’m not surprised you feel overwhelmed.

Cancer affects not just the person with the disease but everyone around them. It can really help to talk to people with similar experiences and here in this community we have two groups where you might do that - albeit virtually.

The first is a group for bereaved spouses. Click on the link, start a discussion and I hope you’ll find some comfort

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/bereaved_spouse/

The second is a group for carers

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/carers_only/

You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.

We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’. section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.

Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering cancer diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.

Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.

I hope this is of help