My husband of 53years die of lung cancer in April I am lost and lonely

Dear

I am so sorry to hear about the death of your husband. You sound very sad and very down and I hope that by chatting, albeit online, with others who have been through something similar might help you feel less alone and understand that whatever you feel today is normal - and that it will change over time. There is a group for bereaved spouses here in the community. Click on this link, join the group and either read the posts or start your own discussion when you feel ready. 

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/bereaved_spouse/

We also have a section where you can ask a bereavement expert a question online. It can take a couple of days to answer but it is probably worth a read of the existing answers in the meantime.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/ask_the_expert/ask_bereavement_support/

I am worried by your saying that all you want to do is join him. If this is something you ever feel you might act on, then please do call the Samaritans. They have a 24 hour support line with experts who will listen and help you at this crisis point. 

https://www.samaritans.org

I do hope this will give you the information you need to find the help you are seeking. I think it is very brave of you to reach out like this and I sincerely hope you will be able to find fellow travellers to accompany you on your journey through grief and bereavement. 

With love

Hello and welcome to the community at this sad and difficult time. Sorry to hear about your husband. Could I suggest you join the very supportive Bereaved Spouses and Partners  group. There you will find others who have lost loved ones and will understand how you feel. You may like to start a new discussion in the group or maybe join in on some of the current conversations. Click the highlighted link to get to the group. Best wishes.

my husband of 42 years died april 2018 its early days for you your still in shock.i had all those feelings you have then i thought my grown up kids should not be worried about me when theyve lost their dad.you feel like the lonliest person in the world in a crouded room .then jan i got shock news i had lung cancer he would have propped me up and been firm if i got too down kids have been great they took my diagnosis bad worse than me iv had surgery and looks good up to now fingers crossed.i got a dog  a crazy pug keeps me busy wrecks my house but better than silence.you will always miss him but get stronger with time.my son said when i got quite hysterical once 'mum hes not coming back.harsh i kow but made me think and try to make a life and routine for me very important still cry but force myself to go out and do things.very sorry for yout loss take care

So sorry to hear of your loss. My husband of 39 years died 19th December. I have grown up children who have been great but they have to go back to work next week and I am dreading being alone. I did everything with my husband and dont want to do things with anyone else. He loved me like nobody  else could and I am really struggling to get over my loss. I really hope things get easier for both of us .

Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to hear that your husband has recently passed away. It must be an incredibly hard time for you at the moment.

Could I suggest that you join our very supportive bereaved spouses and partners group where you can safely share your feelings.

To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

I'm glad you've reached out to this community and I hope that we're able to support you.

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