Mum has been told in the last couple of days that she has a tumour in her duodenum and that her preexisting health problems mean that they are unable to offer any treatment. I dont know what happens next and what support will be available during the remainder of her life.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see you having to find us.
I am so sorry to hear about your mum, this is a very hard time for all the family bringing a lot of stress and confusion on a family but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot and will reduce the whirlwind wind that is rushing in your head.
We do have lots of support groups that are Cancer specific and also ones that are general Cancer experience groups.
Can I highlight these forums where you can connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey: Carers Forum, Friends and Family Forum and Supporting someone with incurable cancer
Follow the link and have a look through. When you find a place you feel you can connect in with join the group(s) by hitting the ‘Join the Group’ tab just under the main group name. At this point go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts.
The best way to get support is to go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab just under the main group name. Set up your own Discussion and Introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you have in this first post.
You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’ section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
When you feel up to it think about putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself.
To do this click on YOUR username, look to the left and select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.
All the very best to your mum and the family,
