Hi iv just joined this group in the hope people in similar situations can help put my mind at ease. My mum has been diagnosed with bowel cancer which has spread to her liver. We haven't been told much info at all I feel like we have been waiting for a long time. We have a appointment on Monday to discuss what treatment they are going to offer her. The nurse briefly told us it will be chemo for three months once a fortnight but that's it. I am worried sick that they are going to tell us on Monday that they can't operate or make her better. She is fit and healthy and they said she is perfect candidate for chemo because she is so well. Obviously I have googled which has just got me in more of a state of panic. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see you having to find us.
I am sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress on a family but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot and will reduce the whirlwind wind that is rushing in your head.
First, please please stay away from Dr Google, it is one of the most unhelpful places you can ever go, but talking with people who are walking the walk can help a lot.
I see that you have joined the to our Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer forum where you will connect with people who understand the journey your mum is on. You can ask the folks questions about treatments, what to expect and how to help her during this time.
Follow the link and join the group and to go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab just under the main group name. Set up your own Discussion and Introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you have in this first post.
You my also find these forums helpful where you can connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey: Carers Forum and Friends and Family Forum
You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’ section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find some great pages covering the cancer diagnosis, treatment and information pages covering most types of cancers.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
When you feel up to it think about putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself.
To do this click on YOUR username, look to the left and select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.
All the best.
