Hello, am new to the group but could do with so e advice. My dad was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer that has spread to lymph nodes in feb. He seems to have given up and is depressed. He has big panic attacks when his breathing becomes difficult, which makes things worse, he wont even try to get up to go to the toilet and is being very demanding on my mum - to the poi t of being quite nasty. He wont let the macmillan nurses come to see him. I am very concerned for his mental state but also for my mum who is struggling to meet his demands. Has anyone had any experience of this ot any idea how to help? Im not sure where the line is between being firm with him or letting him go through this as he is a very ill man. - many thanks x
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to hear about your dad's recent diagnosis. It must have been very difficult news for your dad and the rest of the family to hear.
It is quite understandable that he would be feeling depressed and also that he panics when his breathing becomes difficult. Could I suggest that you join the lung cancer group so that you can ask questions of others who have lung cancer to see if they can share their experiences with you.
I think you might also benefit from joining the family and friends group as it's a safe place to share your worries and get support.
To join either or both of these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the pages that open. You can then post a question or introduce yourself after selecting 'start a discussion' and respond to existing posts by clicking on 'reply'.
You may also find this information from Macmillan helpful on understanding what your dad may be facing in relation to his cancer diagnosis and also this about the emotions he may be feeling. Hopefully, both of these articles will help you understand how his cancer diagnosis is making him feel.
When you feel up to it, it would be really useful if could pop something about your dad's journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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