Hi all.
I found out today my Dad has lung cancer. He has been through CT scans, MRI, and a biopsy. I was with him throughout all this. I then went on holiday and returned this morning to discover he was in hospital after a fall. He was Alone at home and found on the floor. In a state.
Whilst I was away he found out he had lung cancer Whiist I was on holiday. But didn't tell me to protect me.
He's 76, used to be a strong tough man. Seeing him this fragile is difficult. I am the only person able to look after him. My elder sis isn't mentally stable to do a lot.
I just would like some advise on how to help him. I'm not happy with him living alone. I have a two year old and a supportive partner. This news is heartbreaking for me his youngest daughter.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear about your dad and the shock this has been.
A cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress on a family but talking with people who are on the same journey will help a lot and will help reduce the whirlwind wind that is rushing in your head.
I do have Lung issues (Asbestos) but my cancer journey (Lymphoma) was rather different so you may like to follow this link to our Lung Cancer Forum where you will connect with people who understand the journey your dad is on. You can ask the folks questions about treatments, what to expect and how to help him during this time.
Follow the link and join the group. To do this hit the ‘Join the Group’ tab just under the main group name. At this point go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts. If in the future you don’t want to receive notifications just switch off the email notifications tab.
The best way to get support is to go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab just under the main group name. Set up your own Discussion and Introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you have in this first post.
We also have these forums where you can connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey: Carers Forum and Friends and Family Forum
Have a look through our various Macmillan Support Line Services then call them on 0808 808 00 00 to be very helpful covering Emotional Support and Practical Information. Clinical Information and Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.
We also have our Online Information and Support Section where you will find some great pages covering the cancer diagnosis, treatment and information pages covering most types of cancers. Please try to keep away from Dr Google as the information often found is not helpful or up to date.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
When you feel up to it thank about putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself.
To do this click on YOUR username, look to the left and select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - REMEMBER hit the big green SAVE before you leave the page. If you're not sure what to write you can take a look at any members profiles by clicking on their username.
All the very best.
