Hi, my mum was diagnosed with Lung Cancer back in 2016 which has now spread to the liver and more rectnly spread to her neck. I'm finding it really hard to digest it all... Its taken me the good part of 2.5 years just to come to terms with her having Cancer. She's gone through Chemo which has thankfully maintained the cancer to an extent & will be starting Radiotherapy the week after next. My mum is a strong women, she has fought so hard & is getting on with life & won't slow down for anything or anyone! At the time she was diagnosed, she was given a max of 2 years left, but she's overcome those odds as she's now in her 3 year... Aswel as myself & my brother, she has an amazing support network from family & friends... She's never once wanted sympathy or doesn't want anyone feeling sorry for her, like I said she's an amazingly strong women!! I feel like I'm failing my mum as I'm not able to deal with it & not able to be strong when she needs me too... Any advice on coping would be great. Thank u
Hi and welcome to the online community although I'm sorry that you've had to find us.
As you have discovered a cancer diagnosis affects the whole family and I can understand how difficult it must be for you especially with the cancer spreading.
You mustn't feel like you're failing her because you think that you're not coping. It can be very hard watching someone you love deal with an illness and I think that you would benefit from joining the family and friends group where you can share your worries and get support.
To join this group just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. To ask a question or introduce yourself select 'start a discussion' and to respond to existing posts click on 'reply'.
You might also like to take a look at this information from Macmillan about your emotions when someone close to you has cancer.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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