Recently received bad news cancer increased in my lungs and around the neck.Am in hospital now for a painful heap which started on Sunday.Am due iodine treatment on 17May. Hub doesn't seem to understand at all how this is affecting me.Argues with me on his visit when I am explaining to my sister what the doctors are saying. He does not ask how I am or how are feel.he left me very tearful. So asked him not to come back to hospital as he causes more stress for mai feel alone in this journey.
Hi welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear that you and your husband is having.
This is a hard time for everyone and you have to deal with the treatment and the storm between your ears. Not making any excuses for your husband, but most likely he just does not understand or finds it hard to deal with.
But clear information can help everyone navigate the various challenges and control the whirlwind between the ears that a cancer diagnosis brings. So talking with people who are on the same journey will help a lot.
We do have lots of support groups that are Cancer specific so have a look through these as you will meet folks on the same journey.
Follow the link and join the group. Hit the 'Start a Discussion' tab and introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you put in this first post. Remember to go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts.
You may think about getting your Specialist Nurse to have a witless with your husband as the professional approach can carry some understanding.
You may also find our various Macmillan Support Line Services on 0808 808 00 00 to be very helpful even if all you want to do is talk with friendly person that can help in lots of ways.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’ section but please allow a few days to get an reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
If you haven't yet completed your profile when you have a minute could you pop something about your journey so far into it. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine profile by clicking on my username.
All the best.
