Hi everyone- have found myself being very angry at my husband today, for no particular reason except I’m so low. I’m normally a glass half full person but I am really struggling. I was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of months ago. First op they removed lump and 7 lymphs - they were clear but not enough margins around lump and I had a massive blood clot too. Second op removed right to skin, cleared blot clot and in between all this had seroma in my armpit drained. This time healed ok. HER2 came back negative they sent off for the other scoring test one came back with quite a low score of 18 but still they want me to have chemotherapy as well as radiotherapy. Not had oncology appt yet but will be about 3 weeks. Was supposed to be having an already 3 times cancelled appt for an injection for frozen shoulder (same side) but I now have a chest infection (not even had a cold) so this now won’t be done before chemo. My armpit has swelled again and is painful this time but they will not do anything else it will put chemo back. And the icing on the cake (no pun intended) is that it’s my 50 Birthday tomorrow. I know there are a thousand people worse off than me but I can honestly say I’ve never felt so useless, down, upset, angry, worried etc all at once and just needed to vent.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with Breast Cancer.
First, happy birthday tomorrow, I remember missing my 60th a few years back as I was in treatment.
This is a hard time for you and all of the family but clear information can help everyone navigate the various challenges and control the whirlwind between the ears that a cancer diagnosis brings. So talking with people who are on the same journey will help a lot.
My cancer journey was rather different but if you follow this link to our Breast cancer forum you will be able to connect with people who understand the journey you are on. You can ask the folks questions about treatments but more importantly about the struggles you and your husband are having
Follow the link and join the group. Hit the 'Start a Discussion' tab and introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you put in this first post.
Remember to go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts.
You may also find our various Macmillan Support Line Services on 0808 808 00 00 to be very helpful even if all you want to do is talk with friendly person that can help in lots of ways.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’section but please allow a few days to get an reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
If you haven't yet completed your profile when you have a minute could you pop something about your journey so far into it. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine profile by clicking on my username.
All the best.
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to hear about your breast cancer diagnosis and all the problems you're experiencing. Unfortunately, our nearest and dearest tend to be the ones who get our angry outbursts as they're around when we're feeling low.
Could I suggest that you join the breast cancer group where you'll find plenty of people who understand what you're going through. You can ask questions, share experiences and benefit from their support.
To join the group just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and ask questions by selecting 'start a discussion' and respond to existing posts by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it, it would be really useful if could pop something about your journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hi so sorry to read you are feeling so low, especially when it is your birthday tomorrow.
I will be 50 next year and already planning my birthday party, have you thought of postponing your birthday and having it when you feel a bit more like it, or having it as a double celebration when you get to the end of all this poopiness? Put it this way, If its good enough for the Queen is sure is good enough for you.
I get you with the lumpectomy and the seroma, i didn't get clear margins and also got a seroma after my first lumpectomy and it really was uncomfortable. I had chemotherapy before my lumpectomy and i'm waiting now for an appointment to go have radiotherapy.
But i will tell you i got the all clear on Tuesday, so as hard as it all gets at times it is worth it.
As for the people worse of than you, yes there probably are but that doesn't mean you can't feel sad sometimes, it is allowed. You are allowed to feel angry and upset, just don't hang onto it too long,
Come and join us in the Breast Cancer Group we're a friendly bunch and the people in there have helped me through all this. I have come on in tears feeling so sad and left smiling.
Talking to people who get you totally helps, and i have something for you
Keep talking xx
