Hello, I have read a few peoples posts and in comparison my situation seems far away from others, but I wondered if anyone could help me. Last year my brother was diagnosed with a brain tumour aged just 37, I've struggled to cope with it, which sounds ridiculous because I know I'm not the one with cancer, however I'm struggling with how it's affecting him, he is a lot more short tempered, and his mood can change at any minute and it's hard to see him like this. Then on top if this my mum told us a few weeks ago she has breast cancer, and im back to where I was last year, struggling again to understand why this has happened to our family again. I know this all may sound selfish and that I'm only thinking of myself but I'm struggling to stay strong and positive which everyone keeps telling me to be. Can anyone out there relate to how I'm feeling, and if so, how do you carry on and be the strong supportive sister/daughter I should be, rather than this emotional wreck. Thank you.
Hello and welcome to the community, although sorry to hear of the position you are in with both your brother and your mum. We know how hard it is when a family member is diagnosed with cancer, and in your case it must be doubly difficult. Please do not think of yourself being selfish. People say things like stay strong and be positive. Many of us know these are just words from people who do not understand. The best way to support someone is in a practical way. Treatment wipes people out and they need help with simple things such as house work, transport and cooking etc. And you need to take time out for yourself , because it can be exhausting looking after others. You may find it helpful to join the Family and Friends group. There you will find others with loved ones affected by cancer. click the link to get to the group and start a new discussion with your feelings there. Best wishes.
