Hello there, my partner of 46 years died 7 months ago with lung cancer. I am constantly reliving the memories of his 10 months of distress and suffering and I keep imagining that had I said/done things differently that I would have been able to give him more comfort emotionally and physically. These thoughts are so distressing and I would just feel a little comfort in knowing that these feelings are not unique. Has anyone else experienced the same?
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear that your husband died 7 months ago with lung cancer. This is a hard time for you and I am sure you did do all that you could do during these times. But there is always a "what if?" to deal with.
I was the person with the cancer so my journey was rather different but if you follow this link to our Bereaved Spouses and Partners Group you will be able to connect with people who understand the journey your on.
Follow the link and join the group. Hit the 'Start a Discussion' tab and introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you put in this first post. Remember to go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts.
You may also find our various Macmillan Support Line Services on 0808 808 00 00 to be very helpful even if all you want to do is talk with friendly person that can help in lots of ways.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’ section but please allow a few days to get an reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support Groups in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
We do have lots of Cancer experience groups where folks connect together under different subjects.
All the best and a warm Thehighlander ((hug))
Hi you may want to send a post to Wendy our Bereavement Support ((hugs))
