I feel hopeless majorly I'm forever biting my tongue incase I say the wrong thing. I'm upset about his mum being ill too.. My family live 2 hours away and she is the grandparent to my two young children.. He is shutting me out then we fight and I know why he is quiet but he is pushing me away I feel so sad for him and I feel helpless what can I do
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear that your mum in law has been diagnosed with Breast Cancer. Your fiancé is most likely confused and does not understand the full extent of what is going on. When we hear the word cancer we automatically think the worst so not surprised he is not dealing well with situation and unfortunately the people closest take the flack....... this is a hard time for you and all the family
I am Mike Thehighlander and I volunteer on the Community and I will do my best to get you to the best place for you to find the support and the help you need.
On my long journey I found the best way to navigate the various challenges and the whirlwind between the ears that a cancer diagnosis brings was through talking with people who are on the same journey.
My cancer journey was rather different but if you follow these links to our Carers Forum and Friends and Family Forum you will be able to connect with people who may well understand the journey you are on.
Just join the group and hit the 'Start a Discussion' tab and introduce yourself to the group and tell them your story - remember to go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts.
You may also find our various Macmillan Support Line Services on 0808 808 00 00 to be helpful as you can talk to a friendly person that can help in lots of ways.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’ section but please allow a few days to get an reply.
When you have time it would be helpful if you could put some information about yourself and the journey that brought you to the Community into your profile as it really does help the Community members to help you and get to know you.
Click on your username and that will take you to your homepage. Look for ‘Edit my Profile’ click on it and start to tell us as much or as little about yourself as you want then click on save before closing the page.
All the best.
