My father is in his mid 80s and has been fighting this for almost 9 years now following major surgery. He was diagnosed as terminal a year ago and has all but given up now. During my lastay visit he sat and cried saying he'd had enough and he wants to die which is heartbreaking to hear. His quality of life is not good and he rarely leaves the house. Around 6 months ago he started showing signs of dementia that has deteriorated quickly and I was wondering if anyone knows if this could be linked to growing tumours at all as he has become awfully confused recently but rapidly. Treatment has been stopped apart from symptom management. Has anyone else experienced this please?
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear that your father is how he is.
I am Mike Thehighlander and I help out on the Community and I will do my best to direct you to the best place for you to find the support and the help you need. On my long journey I found the best way to navigate the various challenges that a cancer diagnosis brings was by talking with people who are on the same journey.
My cancer journey was rather different but if you follow this LINK to our Liver Cancer Forum and this LINK to our Bowel Cancer Forum you will be able to connect with people who understand the journey you are on.
Just join the group and hit the 'Start a Discussion' tab and introduce yourself to the group and remember to go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts.
We also have these forums where you can connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey: Carers Forum and Friends and Family Forum and Supporting someone with incurable cancer
You may also find our various Macmillan Support Line Services on 0808 808 00 00 to be helpful as you can talk to a friendly person that can help in lots of ways.
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All the best.
