Good Morning All,
Monday 8th April after a huge battle to be seen by GP's and gastro my partner was rushed into the surgical assessment unit at hospital with suspected sub acute blockage. This had been going since th
day after boxing day last year but it come to a head when his stomach was full of fluid, he's lost 10 stone and couldn't move anymore. Tuesday..or omg he had surgery to try and remove the blockage, esTue night he surgeon came and delivered the news, the mass was too big to remove inaide his bowel and outside he has tumours too which they cannot remove..he's had a loop ileostomy put in and toldhey will have to try and shrink the lump with chemo but he can't start that because he's too malnutriced and need to build him up over the coming months. He hasn't processed it at all and is isolati himself, we have 6 kids.collectively, 3 of which are his and he's pushing everyone away which I get I really do but I just don't know how to help him he's even pushed me away and I'm.left with the ds alone. We don't really have any family apart from my father but he's finding it all too.much after being in remission for 10 years now and I'm not allowed to.mention it to the neighbors who are fends because he doesn't want me to.. I just don't know what to do
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Hello and welcome to the community, although sorry to hear about your partner and the situation you find yourself in. Any cancer diagnosis has a huge impact on everyone involved, not just the patient. It is not unusual the way your partner is behaving. Some people just cannot come to terms with things and it takes time. We have a very supportive group here where you will find others in similar situations to your self, and where people understand Family and Friends . Click the link to get to the group and post your concerns there. You should get support and advice from others in the same boat. It may also help to talk to someone in person. I recommend you call the free helpline on 0808 808 0000 (open till 8pm). They have friendly experts on hand who can offer some advice. I hope all goes well. Best wishes.
