I also use a forum specific to breast cancer. A couple of days before Christmas I saw a post from someone who had just been diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and would have an appointment with oncology in January to establish her treatment plan. She mentioned her tumour had vascular invasion. I replied with some information on my situation (essentially I had vascular invasion with what was thought to be an early stage tumour, and later found out I had a secondary in my liver, which was likely already there at the time of breast surgery), suggesting she press for a scan. In opening up the thought of possible secondaries I have very clearly upset the OP to the point where she describes me as an arsehole. She was particularly upset to be faced with this thought at Christmas.
It serves as a useful reminder to me that things don’t always land the way you expect, whatever the intention. And that it’s far safer to discuss the reality of metastatic cancer with those in the same boat rather than with the newly diagnosed. I don’t usually comment on similar posts except where someone is looking for information on an experience I have had. However the medical profession’s lack of focus on vascular invasion is a bit of a red rag to a bull with me as I think my outcome might have been different had I had a full staging scan once that risk factor had been established. Lesson learned.
I’ve just read your response to my post! It looks like I’m stalking you.
