Please don't feel you need to reply, I just want to get it all off my chest then leave the room, leave it behind me but hope it'll make me feel lighter, mist of this might not even make sense .
My stepdaughter as been given notice to leave her private rented accommodation by Feb through no fault of her own , she as a husband, dog and 2 cats plus a stepson who stays every weekend .
My wife's automatic response was they could come here seeing as we have a spare bedroom, yes that includes the stepson staying every weekend because my stepdaughter won't even consider making the kids mother have him stay at home and they just pick hum up and do things with him instead for a while .
Now I understand why my wife automatically offered the spare room, she loved her daughter, doesn't want her homeless etc etc etc but and this is the things she didn't automatically think about .
I'm on end of life care and practically bedbound , the front room is my frontroom/bedroom/bathroom/toilet/care room , you have to walk thru it to get into the house, to get to upstairs and to get to the kitchen , there is enough room for the bed, commode, 2 setter sofa and our dogs bed plus all the other bits of equipment and stuff that's needed for my care .
My wife didn't have a conversation with me, just told her she could move in and I sat my wife down and asked where is the room to put another dog bed, how am I going to control a dog who's skittish and growls at strangers, where am I supposed to send the dog when the carers come, where will a cat litter tray go, where will they sit? Does that mean I'll be asking them to leave the room whilst I nap, rest, use the commode , does that mean they won't be able to walk around the squeaky floorboards that are in the bedroom above me, so I can rest, , what about when they come down at 6am to go to work, and come home from work, what about when I start declining?
My wife admitted she hadn't thought about that and had just said it, so we tried explaining that it wouldn't be practical and now my stepdaughter is doing none stop crying saying how unloved she's being made feel and how unwanted we are making her feel and now is guilt tripping us saying she will have to get rid of her animals and they are her therapy animals and how she'll have to get rid of her car and now she's also found out she's pregnant so the stress we are putting her thru is going ro make her lose the baby .
What abiut the stress all this is putting on me, do I no feature in any of this?
