Just wanted to say hi.
I've recently been diagnosed with an incurable regional reoccurrence of breast cancer which was a huge shock. I first had bc in 2011-mastectomy,chemo and radiotherapy then a local reoccurrence in 2017 when I had a lumpectomy. I feel like I've been knocked off my feet (not sure that's the right expression but hope you get what I mean!) I'm struggling with it all and what it means for life expectancy. I also have ME so it's quite difficult to know what symptoms are what. Just feeling a bit alone and lost, it's too hard to talk to loved ones without upsetting them. Hoping to engage in the forum and meet some people who understand
Hi seashanty, I can relate to how difficult it is to come to terms with this latest setback. And it took me quite a long time to accept my situation for what it is and start living as normal a life as possible again. But I got there eventually and so will you. The treatments are phenomenal nowadays and this group will always be here to give support when you need it. Have a lovely day.
Patrick xx
Hi seashanty, Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I had bc in 2012 with lumpectomy chemo and radiotherapy. Last year was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer with bone mets in most of my bones. It has been a year now since diagnosis and I feel much more positive now than this time last year. This is such a friendly, supportive group of people and this has definitely helped me. I hope that you find the same. Big hugs and we all understand.
Lee 2 x
Thank you so much Gilpat, I needed to hear that!
Hope you have a good day too x
Hi Lee, thank you for replying.
I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis, you've certainly made me think- in my darker moments I've wondered if it's even worth starting a new tv series,whether I'll be alive at the end (!) but you've given me hope and I can't think you enough for that. It's early days for me but it's great to know it's possible to cone to terms with things,thanks again x
Hi
Sorry you are joining this exclusive club. As others have said your reaction is entirely normal given the circumstances. Be kind to yourself and allow time to process all this.
I was in the same boat last December and was feeling very low. However, after a few months, I came to accept my situation and getting on living well with cancer treatments. I can honestly say mentally I feel the happiest since I was 15. By not having a future, we don’t have to worry about it anymore and can fully live in the present.
Take care
Stella x
Hi seashanty, I know what you mean. Last year I thought what is the point in buying Christmas presents if you might not even see Christmas. I think it is a natural reaction (very scary). This year we even went on holiday to Portugal which I didn't think was possible last year. I feel quite content with my life at the moment. We are all here for you.
Lee 2 x
Good point Stella, I never thought of it that way x
Hi seashanty
I felt the same way in august but it’s amazing how you dust yourself off and start living a new and whatever makes you happy day to day life, keep your chin up you’ll start to feel better soon .
angie
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