I was disgnosed 3 weeks ago wirh incurable cancer. All that has been found are cells in the fluid drained off my lung. I am so frightened and see an oncologist on Wednesday to find out what is happening. At the moment my life just seems to be on hold and in slow motion. I am trying so hard to to be strong and positive but failing miserably. How do other people cope with this situation. I feel so weak and useless.
Hi we were all knew once and more than likely felt the same as you.
Every one gets a plane of some sort, regarding a treatment plan if any and what it may be.
Ask questions, have you had all the tests done and a biopsy? Until test's are all completed they will not get a trues answer to what they are dealing with.
I was diagnosed incurable cancer, stage 4 from day one that was in 2016, and still going just about at times.
I would never have got this far with out support from people going threw the same, , present and past. x
Hello J
You are dealing with a huge trauma and also living with uncertainty until you know more - it is the worst time
Once you have a full diagnosis and a plan you will feel you have some control back, only a couple more days to wait
In the meantime be kind to yourself, you’re not failing, you’re dealing with an incredibly difficult situation
I was in the same position as you last year , please believe me, life will settle albeit to a new place but at the moment you will feel like a rabbit in the headlights - I certainly did
When you see your oncologist ask about psychological support too - not something I’ve ever sought in the past but has really helped me through the past few months
This forum is full of lovely people who will always be here
Gentle hugs
Lucy xx
Hi J Daniels, and a warm welcome from me. I can't really add much to Ellie'S post, but we are all in the same boat here my friend, all with a life limiting illness, an incurable diagnosis is a huge blow, bur incurable does not mean not treatable, and for many years for some, as my good friend Ellie has shown, we have many different cancers between us, which few of us share, but we all share the emotional side of our diagnosis, and more importantly how to carry on and make the best of life, it's not one any of us would ever want but it's possible to live a good life, you are at the most difficult part of your cancer journey, but once you have a plan and treatment begins, and you begin fighting back against this awful disease, things do get a little easier, and with the support and friendship of the wonderful people on here, even more so, so try not to be so hard on yourself, what your feeling is perfectly normal, and why wouldn't it be. I'm sure more of the guys will be along to welcome you.
Eddie
Hi again J Daniels, glad you decided to sound out this forum as well. You will soon see why, lots of banter and fun amidst all the bleakness, but lots of serious stuff too. My advice would be to put technical, very specific questions on the lung forum as well, someone will nearly always have had relevant experience. Meanwhile, hang in there till you have your treatment program in place
Patrick xx
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