Hi everyone

Hi Graham! Got the same diagnosis in October 2015 and still here...so don't give up. We all have fears and i think that's just human..so what questions do you have??? We are here for you!! Pet

Hi Gray, just wanted to say hello, I am new here as well. I was told in June that my cancer is not curable, could have weeks, a month, maybe a year.

And I have a 5 year old, so I feel for you with your 3 kids. Are they young? We will be starting our son in a counseling/psychoeducation program that helps kids with seriously ill parents (some who will die) to cope. I'm hoping this can help him. Not as much as me not dying, but some. The hospital social worker also gave me a packet with materials to do projects to make memories, and to give him something to remember me by. One is a pillowcase we will both decorate, then he can sleep with it to feel close to me when I'm gone. It's brilliant, but heartbreaking. I've been dragging my feet.

Patricia

Hi Patricia I’m sorry you got this terrible news. I’ve been dragging my feet too. My daughter is nearly 8 she knows I’ve got cancer and we’ve been gently getting her used to the idea that I’m not going to get better. It’s so hard. We’ve also been asking the kids what they like to do with me and doing it!  My daughter likes to go out for breakfast with me just the two of us. Little things like that. 
stay strong

Hi Gray. I have terminal stage 4 bowel following 5 Years misdiagnosis by gastro specialist. I dont know how long ive got maybe days, Weeks or Months. I may or may not go for chemo when I see oncologist shortly. I dont know. I m currently on my feet. I replaced a shower unit this morning and will visit Solent coast later. still living until the end I worry less. Only diagnosed in July.  Not sure I want hospitals all the time. I want to make the most of time. Im 60, only started retirement in recent Years but have reflected on what I ha ve achieved in life. No regrets. I would have made same choices. I just take e ach day with gratitude!. Take care. Does your military background give you alot of INNER strength ?

Hello Gray. There are lots of good folk here who are good listeners and give good advice. It took me a while to to appreciate just what a difference it made to me having this forum. If you fancy a bit of art 'therapy' to focus on, give me a shout. Meanwhile, one day at a time. RDx