I've been diagnosed with Stage 4 caceum bowel cancer

Hi Tony, welcome to the group, and sorry you're here.

Your late diagnosis certainly sounds unfortunate, but don't give up hope. We're all incurable here and a lot of us have been kicking around for years.

Stick around here, there is a lot of support and experience in the group, and we don't tend to take things too seriously.

Much love,

Stuart x 

PS. Please ignore Google, if it's not out of date, then it's downright wrong.

Thanks Stuart. I will try and stick around. The moral support here takes away this lonely journey.

Yes, its a confusing picture on the internet

welcome to the forum, sorry you need to be here. According to various parts of google this forum should be deader than all of us on here. So many on this forum are either well past their doctor stated sell by date or like me and incurable but not given a sell by date yet as the docs don't know any better than I do how long I have left.  

Aslk all the questions you need on here its a great forum for that. Also make notes in a notebook of any question you want to ask the oncologist then take the book with you to your appointment and note down the answers as you wont remember them 30 seconds after being given them.  

Never jump to conclusions and always ask the specialist what all the options are.  if you need us just shout

Hi Tony, welcome. Yes it's hard not to think about what would be and so 5 years ago. But it doesn't help now. And maybe there was nothing then. So try to put your energy into getting better. If you get chemo you will need it. And about that awful due date...mine was 8 to 12 months....that was October 2015...soooo you see. We are here for you, even if you just want to yell and scream the fear off. Hugs Pet

Thanks Richard for your  kind words.

Thanks Pet. I try and live in the current day. I think I appreciate it more. The past is gone but as my partner said;. Given the same situation, would the same choices would be made. Its still hard to accept. I keep thinking how life would be so different if doctors had done colonoscopy 5 years ago instead of the CT scans. I think i might have been cured 5 Years ago I will never know. I think of lost future and the massive life disruption now, all could have been avoided. This is how I feel right now and its hard.

Dear Tony73 I am sorry for your diagnosis, I hope that being with this group is helpful. There has been a lot of great advice already posted, I want to add my support. We all understand. You may be in shock which makes it hard to make decisions and understand information. Do you have a Macmillan nurse to help you? Take care, x

Yes, I have but awaiting onc appointment for the way forward. The group is really supportive.