Sh*t out of luck

I’m sorry you had mets after an all clear that must be hard to adjust to

Thanks all for the supportive comments. I ended up ugly crying in church on Sunday. That seems to have helped with my overall mood. My mind has been really peaceful since. I’m wondering if I’ve just gone back into a denial phase! If so long may it last! 

Sounds more like acceptance than denial.

Putting things in place for the kids will be a huge help. When I was diagnosed, I immediately threw myself into getting my affairs in order, and making sure that my wife and kids would be provided for and would have zero admin hassle. It was a great comfort for me.

Stuart x 

Hi Number7,

Sorry you've had to join the group, but welcome. It sounds as if you are doing all the practical things that you can. I hope they find some good treatments for you.

I've found this group really helpful for both the highs and the lows. I hope you do too.

Best wishes 

Hi , you have been dealt a crap hand, but you are dealing with it. Peace of mind comes with knowing you are doing all you can, and making sure there are clear plans in place for your kids for the future. Good on you for having a cry ( no such thing as an ugly cry in my mind). Welcome to the incurables, we are a supportive lot, and you can throw anything you want at us, and we will cope. And dont let anyone decry denial - it is a useful tool.

xx

Hi I am also a single mother (to a 14 year old girl) and carer for my 88 year old disabled mother. I remember well the shock and upset at being told my cancer was incurable but still treatable with a dire prognosis of living more than 1-5 years.  I appear to have responded well to chemo having had two clear ct scans since early February and I’m able to feel more myself again. I wish you all the best for your treatment, take care x 

sometimes a damn good ugly cry just lets your mind reset and your brain find some order again, t least it does for me.

Dear Number7, this is a tough time in more ways than one. As others have already said, don't pay attention to possible life spans. It's a good idea to get your affairs in order and then you can concentrate on helping your body and mind. This group is the best tonic, there is unbelievable support and you can be honest here. Take care, x

Dear Number 7. I've not been on the Forum long, but have already found great support and understanding from the people on here. I've learnt that things can change rapidly - and not always for the worst as you might think. My mental attitude has strengthened since being able to ask questions here and gain information and advice difficult to access anywhere else. Sending you good wishes and support. RD