Hi all I don’t often post but I wanted to just say out loud I have relapsed the dreaded big C is back. My husband knows but I don’t know how to tell my children & family. I just cry when I think of it I knew at some point it would happen but I’ve been great. I will wait till Mother’s Day is over then I will speak to them all. Dr putting me forward for a trial drug I will be screened next week everything moving fast as my counts are going up quickly. I am scared anxious but eager to start the trial study I will know by next week if I am suitable my Dr has only one concern my neutrophils which current treatment lowered. The trial study is MagnetisMM-32 the drug is Elranatamab or I could get one of other combinations it is 50/50 decision for multiple myeloma.
i will post updates on how it is going any advice on trial studies would be appreciated.
wishing everyone the best in there journeys.
jacquie
Hi Jacquie, though it's nice to hear from you again, I am so sorry it's under these circumstances, and understand the difficulty with informing family, my eldest daughter 52yo recently had a recurrence, and my kids mum, a cancer diagnosis which was almost a certainty, and telling family is such a personal thing, if, when and how can only be determined by those who know them.
That's great news there is trial drug, and I will have everything crossed its a successful one for you, I'm sorry I have no personal experience of them, but I do know a few of the lovely people on here have done amazingly well on them, and I'm sure they will come along to share their experiences.
Jacquie, I remember you posting before as like your husband, I have advanced prostate cancer, can I ask how he is doing.
My best wishes for next week, good luck.
Eddie and Sheila xx
Hi Jacquie, your welcome, and It's good to hear your husbands doing well on his treatment, though I empathise with him tiring quickly and bone pain, I see you too are posting at silly o clock, thanks for your good wishes, always appreciated, and the same to you both, my bedtime.
Eddie and Sheilaxx
Hi Jacquie, Welcome back but I wish you weren’t here at all! I am usually around at this time and later, I’m the night owl, Eddie too! I am so pleased your husband is doing well on his treatment as he will be able to support you through yours now. I got screened for a Trial Combo my oncologist thought might help but I failed the screening. ( long story) However my onc was amazing and contacted all the Labs that made the 2nd drug asking if they would supply it to me “under special circumstances” and GlaxoSmithKline agreed. As it was a Trial drug it was unlicensed so the NHS wouldn’t fund it! I am telling you this just in case you don’t pass the screening to let you know that it is not always the end of the Trial for you!
I was on the trial drug for about three and a half years but eventually came off it because of the side effects. During the time I was on it, I was worried that when my Team told me to have a break for a week or two, then it wouldn’t work. How wrong I was! I stopped the drug in Oct 2016 and low and behold, I’m still here, I had a complete response! I hope you are as lucky! When you read all the pages of side effects, don’t let it put you off as it could save your life and you may not have any side effects or even just one or two. I can empathise with the fact you already have had to tell your family about your hisband’s cancer too. We also had to do that. In Sept 2023 my husband was dx with bowel cancer, had major surgery then got the all clear. At his 1 year anniversary a CT scan showed cancer of the bladder, again he had surgery but minor, just to remove the tumours and do a biopsy. He has just finished his 6 weeks of chemo and will have his scan in 3/4 weeks. We also support one another! Never give up! We certainly won’t. They are developing new drugs for lots of different cancers monthly, so the cure may well be out there. We take it a day at a time and enjoy the good days and rest on the bad days! It is the most difficult thing we have done, telling our family but they are a lot stronger than we thought and I am sure your family are too. Please let us know how you are doing!
Love Annette x
I went on a trial from Jan 2023 to June 2024. It was for modi-1 vaccine, one of a number of new drugs to benefit from advances in techniques following covid.
I was lucky. I responded ok to my treatment - the standard approach rather than the trial. I was on standard treatment a year before the trial. Perhaps there are long term benefits for me from the trial. But the trial made me feel much better in myself. I never realised how bleugh I was still feeling until the trial made me feel normal again.
I hope you pass the trial screening.
Trials are not without risk, but I see it as "tomorrow's drugs today". My treatment was being effective when I started the trial, but I went on it to help others, thinking it didn't and wouldn't work for me, because my existing treatment was working. Weird logic in retrospect!
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