Latest CT scan. Mabel’s had a bit of a wobbly

Will be thinking of you both, on the road ahead.

I love her poetry, every one has a special message that can effect you, it really helped me, at a time when i really needed it.

Thank you Ellie. It’s so good to know we always have this group just being there to listen when you need to voice your feelings when things are tougher than usual. 

Hi Rojan,  Mable can have a few wobbles then come right again when you least expect it, so never give up hope. I can understand your decision to postpone treatment for a while so that you can support your husband. My husband was diagnosed with Bowel Cancer in September and our whole world was upside down. He had surgery to remove part of the Colon after tests revealed there were tumours there. It was the first time he had ever been in hospital, whereas, I have had numerous surgeries. We rode this roller coaster that is cancer, together for a while waiting for biopsy results etc. However when we saw the surgeon on 30.11.23 he assured us they had got it all and he did not require chemo! Like you, my cancer journey has been long but he will now be monitored for the next 10 years. Once every 3 months to start with, then every 6 months etc.

I found the strength to look after him when he came home from 16 days in a High Dependency Unit and my mobility is nil without aids.  I had to manage on elbow crutches because he was not fit enough to push my wheelchair! Fortunately we have a stairlift. I would recommend speaking to your Occupational Therapist to find out if they can help with any aids for you both.

Keep outwitting your sell by date and I hope your husband will make a full recovery once he has taken it easy for a while! Remember we are always here for ne another, so let us know how you are doing!

Thank you Annette for taking the time to respond. I said I didn’t need anyone to reply to my post but I know all too well that members of our less than desirable group automatically reach out to each other in difficult times so thank you again. 
My husband is doing well and is recovering remarkably quickly and that is part of the problem. It is far too soon for him to be taking on the physical support he normally gives me so willingly. It’s not so much that he thinks of himself as super man more that he is just a man and men do find it difficult to acknowledge illness or frailty. Bless them. So my task in supporting him is quite simple really in making sure I don’t cause him to do anything stupid which I know he would if my needs became greater due to treatment side effects. If I’m really honest there is a great part of me that just can’t face treatment at the moment in fact I’m not sure I want to go down that road again. It’s the age old argument of quality over quantity. So perhaps I’m using my husband’s stroke as a cop out. I’m not sure and I think my consultant read the situation correctly that’s why he is happy to scan me again in 4 months to see how the land lays then. I’ve only had to make minor adjustments to my daily routine. The wheelchair is locked away in the boot of the car (the car that hubby can’t drive yet a while) and I’m restricting my walks to that which I can manage with sticks. I already have adaptions in the house that meet my needs And as for house work, I’ve always hankered after having a cleaner so now have the perfect excuse. Nothing is irresolvable . 
I’m so happy to hear that your husband is recovering from the very traumatic surgery he has been through and hope his recovery continues with no need for further treatment. 
Keep looking after yourself and each other 
Rojan x

Hi Rojan 

Thank you for updating us with all that's been happening. I'm sorry to read about your husband's health and your current situation. Thank you for the book recommendation, I'll look into that.

A x