How to stay positive

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Hi everyone

I need some tips on trying to stay positive. I’m really struggling mentally and feel like I’m almost on death row, which I know sounds overly dramatic.

I had metaplastic breast cancer in my right breast this time last year and have had treatment all of this year only to be told that t has matetisised and there are signs of it on my lungs as secondly triple negative breast cancer.

the hospital are taking forever to book my biopsy and despite chasing them daily I’ve been told I just have to wait.

ive never had mental health problems before and am really trying to be upbeat I’m a single mother to a 2 year old who is my world but o can hardly bear to be around him for the guilt I feel of maybe not being here to see him grow up.

sory it’s a very depressing post I just need to rant I think.

Stella2020 13 hours ago

I am so sorry about your situation especially at such a young age. It is a completely normal response to a highly abnormal situation. Be kind to yourself and allow time to absorb the shocking updates.
Like you I had an incurable diagnosis last December and my recent CT scan is showing a small growth and requires further scan.
I would say the mental health struggle was the hardest last December. It took me a couple of months to accept my situation and moving on. Since then I was in a very good place. Recent set back did make me feel very low again. But this time it only took me 1 week to move on from low mood.
so I can totally related to how you are feeling right now.
What I learned is that we are stronger than we think. We can not control the biology of cancer but we can choose how to react to it. The blue sky is always here. You can and will come through this. It is really helpful to talk to a counsellor about this. Maybe your MacMillan nurse can help you with this? You can also consider anti depressants from GP too.

Be kind to yourself and take care

Stella x