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Hi Rosie, I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. My brother died of melanoma when he was 43 as there was nothing they could offer whereas for most other types of cancer chemo & radiation could be tried but neither worked for melanoma.

When I was diagnosed, I said to my oncologist “I’m not done yet, there must be something, anything I can try”! The drug I went on was unlicensed and had never been used before so no one knew what if any side effects there would be but I was willing to try and my oncologist backed me all the way! To be honest, I live with the side effects and some are not pleasant, but when our grandchildren pop in, the side effects go on the back burner!

Hi Rosiee, I'd like to add my voice to welcoming you to this forum, how I wish I'd met you elsewhere though. I'm so sorry to read that you say that you're probably in your last year. I thought the same when I received my diagnosis yet here I am, over 10 years later thanks to 3 treatments twice a week for almost all that time and I'm still receiving them.

You will meet some wonderful people here who are some of the best and most sensitive, caring people you'll come across. We have in common the worst diagnosis that is the glue that binds us together. 

Wow, you have a busy life with a full diary and that's fantastic to read, you're doing exactly the right thing. How exciting that you are going to be a grandma for the very first time, I have 2 grandchildren, a boy aged 9 and a girl aged 4 but unfortunately I live in Northern Ireland and they are just outside Peterborough. We used to see them a lot more but my wife was diagnosed with rectal cancer on Good Friday 2023 so just now we can't get to see them very often because my wife went through a lot of painful treatment. She's also needing an urgent hip replacement that will possibly be in September this year. Her mobility is very poor as is mine because I received a diagnosis of severe spinal stenosis 3 months after my cancer diagnosis, both in 2015. 

I've taken up a lot of your time Rosiee but I want to finish by saying that we share the love of nature and the countryside and I am fortunate enough to live and enjoy life in such an area. Hope you enjoy your roses this year and more so I'd like to let you know there's a Gardens and Gardening thread that you're very welcome to participate in with us. 

Speak soon Rosiee 

Tvman x

Hi Rosie

I resonate with your message. Somehow the incurable diagnosis liberated me from anxiety and worries about future as there is none. I can fully live in the present now and have a much busier social calendar. If I want to do something I just get on with it rather than leave it to another day or finding excuses to delay. 
I also developed an interest in flower arrangements and gardening. Here is a bunch of roses from my garden for you.

Dear Stella 

thank you for the kind words and beautiful roses