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Hilo13 5 days ago

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Apologies if I am on the wrong chat but I really just wanted to write . I read what other people contribute and find it helpful I’m humbled by some of what I read thankyou
I have had a quite stressful and sad few weeks , our house had been on the market for a while with no interest so I thought I would probably end my days in the home I’ve lived in for 24 years and then last week we had two viewings and they Are both interested. I’m now in the position where my husband is desperate to move to the new house which we bought two years ago with the view to downsize but can’t face the thought of leaving my home now , I know my husband who is 80 and has just had a pacemaker fitted three weeks ago will benefit from us moving as at the moment we are in a farm and quite remote where as the house is in a small close with a bus route etc,

my brother died two days ago after a very short illness nice for him sad for everyone else and I keep thinking about when we were young .
I see my consultant next Monday for my second follow up after finishing my chemo . As you can imagine I’m now feeling every ache pain headache sick feeling .
My problems seem small compared to some on this site but please accept my thanks for even reading this . . best wishes to you all

Chris

eddiel 5 days ago

Hi Chris, and no need to apologise, your in the right place to offload any time you want to, may I offer my sincerest condolences for the loss of your brother, as someone who has just moved house, to live with my partner of 17 years, PS I don't know how long I have left, I can only say I haven't regretted it for a second, my personal opinion has always been people are far more important than possessions and I had lived in my old house 40 years, brought the kids up there, even lost my mum there. I think your feelings leading up to your consultation are something we can all relate too, my last one early October, was early due to my treatment failing, but due to a problem with the pre meeting scan it had to be rearranged, and 2 new scans booked, take 2, my second oncology meeting late October, the scans contradicted each other, and a diagnosis by my orthopedist was overruled by my oncologist based on unreliable scans, take 3 is on November 25th, If I didn't already have a bad heart, I certainly would now.

My very best wishes for your consultation, I hope it brings you good news

Eddie xx

anndanv 5 days ago

Hi Chris,

As Eddie has said, never apologise, that is what this Forum is all about!

We thought we were going to have to move after my diagnosis because I was finding going up and downstairs very difficult. Initially we added an extension and put in a downstairs toilet and walk-in shower with a seat and handles etc. we have lived here for 43 years and I love our house but if we had needed to move, then we would have done it. However the Occupational therapist arranged to have a stairlift fitted, so we managed to stay.

I believe Home is where my husband and I are. So as long as we were both there, it would be home. Also the downsizing is a good idea, especially as your husband has health issues too. I am sure it will make life a lot easier for you both and the fact you have bought it already, saves time searching, you can just move straight in! A farm sounds like a lot of work you could do without.

Scanxiety (as we call it here) can do terrible things to your mind. Every ache and pain, our imagination works overtime. I stopped worrying a long time ago when I realised that whether I worry or not, it will not change the results. Try to take it one day at a time and think of the move as a positive step for you both! Good luck.

Love Annette x

Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, Today is a Gift!!!

Hilo13 5 days ago in reply to anndanv

I I hope you don’t mind me replying to you both at the same time . Thankyou for your kind words and your input on my house move I have decided to take whatever happens when it happens if the house gets sold I will move when we need to . You repeated what my very dear cousin said .. home is where my husband is . As for the scan you are so right whatever is the outcome it is already decided . Thankyou both you are an inspiration have your best day possible onwards and upwards .
one day at a time

Chris xx