If this helps anyone great , if it upsets anyone I apologise in advance.
I had kidney cancer in 2018 and a lump removed then a second op to take the rest of the kidney. First 6 month check up in July 2019 and its in my spine and suddenly I'm terminal. My world flipped on its head my wife and family distraught and no idea what to do.
Luckily 12 months later I am still here, I now have two bars in my back and next week and I will having 3 vertebrae and hopefully the worst tumour removed. The tumour is leaning on my spinal column and threatening to paralyse me. They then put a cage in opposite the bars to stop me folding up.
During the last 12 months I have been able to put life in order, Spend so much valuable time with my wife and I have looked at the chances I have got that the person that dies suddenly doesn't have and the things other will have to suffer through that I won't
I will never get dementia, having lost relatives to it I always feared it happening to me.
I have been able to put all the family finances in order as I always managed them and pass them over to my wife so she won't have try to figure it out whilst grieving
She knows all my wishes for my funeral as we have discussed them, songs , style of funeral cars etc etc
We have sat up till 4am a few nights remembering the past and laughing like two kids on a sleep over
These are the precious things that someone taken instantly doesn't get to do.
Yes being told at 55 you are terminal stinks but there are some things it gives you that are invaluable, how many times have you heard someone say, "if i had only had the chance to say xxxxxx" now you do
