I’m finding it so hard to get into the normal life that once existed for all of us with my ileostomy needing attention, she’s very attention seeking.
I went out today for the second time and met with two family members both knowing that I had an ileostomy.
Being anxious about taking enough of my Stoma’s requirements AKA Whoopi, I took a large bag, I was known for carrying a small handbag as I have a shoulder problem.
I walked in “ What you got in that huge bag, you normally carry a little one?”
Oh my, why bother going out at all. Totally embarrassing moment!
Then I opened it and showed my toilet bag and said I bought toilet roll, as not sure they’d have it here!
So now I’ve embarrassed my sister!
Im not handling this at all.
Think I just need to stay in and forget joining in with anything.
Has anyone else overcome this challenge?
When I got home I retrieved my small handbag and found my original worn one that’s exactly the same. I put one full of a change paraphernalia and the other one with my bits and bobs thinking that people wouldn’t notice when I went about for coffees etc when I have it full of a change.
How do you manage and ileostomy and resume life in general?
hi Ann, sometimes if you can laugh about all things stoma it helps lesson the anxiety and embarrassment. Of course that's not always possible.
The first time we went abroad after my first op at customs they had a right old rummage through my luggage. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry at the expression on their faces. After that I always carry a card saying I'm a stoma patient and flash that under their noses.
Kath
"don't think about tomorrow"
Hi Kath,
Yes I did wonder about security at the airport. They may think I’m a mule!
Coloplast have sent me a travel card in every language under sun, I’ll only need it in Spanish.
The Irish should understand fully.
I have been out more helping my daughter move, it’s good practice using a friendly loo.
I can’t let this thing stop me, we’ve all been in lock down to long I think it’s really made us nervous of mixing.
Thanks for making me smile.
You’re a star
ArtsieAnn
Ann
hi ArtsieAnn - that's brilliant news. You're so right not only are you having to deal with your little f**ker but also lockdown legacy of making us nervous of mixing.
You call me a star - thank you - but you're shining brightly.
Kath
"don't think about tomorrow"
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