Hello Everyone:
My mother has recently been diagnosed with bowel cancer. I have spoken to her briefly about the appointments that she's had and so on, but that is all. I am worried and constantly think about it; I can't help but feel completely useless. She goes to the appointments alone because that is what she prefers, so I don't know the exact words the doctors say to her, and I don't want to keep asking her questions or bring it up because of her mental health. But I do not know of it (apart from the information I've read on Google). She's getting surgery soon, and she told me if there is a leakage, then it may put her life in danger. She also tried to have a particular conversation with me, but I will be sincere: I didn't want to have those conversations. I do not know the size of the cancer or what stage it is; not knowing this, too, worries me more. Im just stressed. I can't think of anything else, and I'm unsure who to talk to about it.
Hi Si0bhanA
Welcome to our community, though we always are a bit sorry to see new members join our special family we just get it on here.
There is a lot of benefit in talking as can be seen here though of course many people with cancer still want to talk about everything else in their life too. Surgery is really very safe but nothing is 100% the big positive is that the doctors would not do it unless they thought it would help.
We need to be careful with google - people often vent and so there tends to be a bias towards horror stories, reputable sites like macmillan and cancer research uk have a higher trust factor.
It might help you to look at our information on your feelings when someone has cancer and remember that the phone line is available to you if you need to talk.
<<hugs>>
Steve
