So my mom is now end of life although she doesn’t know. Not sure if it’s weeks or maybe a few months. Doc came in today to talk about DNAR which hospice have previously tried to talk to her about but she keeps putting off. After her last stay in hospice for symptom control they sent her home with a DNAR but she doesn’t know about it. It’s in the drawer should it be needed. Hospice wrote it after a roundabout discussion with mom where she said docs should do what they think is best. GP at visit today said she can’t put the decision off and they need to know tomorrow what her wishes are. GP wasn’t aaware of the DNAR in the drawer and when I told her about it she said to still talk to mom. Mom hasn’t talked about it since doc left and I’m scared to broach subject in case I upset her. So my dilemma is - should I speak to her or just accept that there’s a DNAR already? Also should I tell her there’s a DNAR already?
She is terrified of dying and is not yet “ready” in her mindset.
I never thought I would have to be decisionmaker for this kind of thing
